I think it is less the fault of feminism and more the human condition to try to get our own needs met first. Especially if (for whatever reason) the person who is trying to get their needs met already feels that there is an imbalance. If they perceive an existing imbalance, they don't worry about the other person's needs at all. For whatever reason, many of the LD women on the board already feel as if they give and give only to find that it isn't enough and that they aren't appreciated. So, they cease to worry about the needs of their SO.
I do think that feminism has painted men with a broad brush and that it isn't entirely fair. I do think that feminism has given SOME women carte blanche to view men in this way and to have expectations of them that aren't reasonable. Women do struggle with sex roles and some women REALLY struggle. To the extent that they do - they will have trouble around this topic in M.
