Article from WAH: "Why I Left You" in Feb. Elle

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The March issue was out, but I was able to read the article at the library in the Feb. issue. My main impression was that this H is going through MLC, is trying to justify his actions, while trying to seem to be the good guy. Of course, in a new R, one will stroke your lover's arm, and want to be close all the time. I wonder how he will feel in a couple of years time, when he realises that his selfishness broke up his family, and that he doesn't feel the same about his new R, after all, and discovers his children resent him for his decision. I am not surprised that his W is angry. He was too much of a coward to approach her and discuss his concerns when he should've, detached himself emotionally from the M and probably from his children apparently without talking to anyone (except the once - sounds like my H), justified his actions by thinking that it was the only way to find happiness, and then has the gall to hope that she will get over her anger, and then writing a public letter to show the world what a "good guy" he is, and that he didn't "mean to hurt anyone". My wish for this W, is that she does get over it, forgive the coward, and move on with her life. He is not worth the bother or emotion of anger. It would be nice if Elle magazine posted a reply from the W.

At church on Sunday, the talks were on happiness. Nowadays, it seems as if happiness goes hand in hand with pleasing oneself. It seems that happiness as a goal is more linked to momentary pleasure than true joy. One thing this WAH said was probably true - that he will never truly be happy until his W was. An interesting article and it did give me some insight into the mindset of a WAH.

I notice how many of these WAS's try to justify their actions by seeming logic - i.e. "I need to explore other avenues to find happiness, with OM/OW". Funny, they always have to have someone else in their lives to find "happiness". I would not like to depend on someone for my happiness - huge job for them, and not fair, I don't think, and a pretty dependent kind of happiness.

Anyway, that's my thoughts on the subject. Thanks for pointing out this article to us. It certainly was food for thought.