Boy, change the names and dates and this is my sitch exactly. It's so weird to be talking about the future but she's not wearing her ring. WTF??? We all but planned our vacation for spring break next year, sleep in the same bed, do everything we did before the bomb except have any kind of affection. Somedays I feel like I'm just paying the bills and doing everything for her for nothing.

That's really my question: at what point do I decide I've done this for long enough without any improvement and pull the ripcord on this? How does it work when you do everything you're supposed to do but they just have no interesting meeting our needs? How long is half a relationship enough?

I had the same thing happen on Valentine's Day. I gave her a great card, nothing back. Even the kids were giving her a hard time about that one. Half of me is in full DB mode, and the other half is thinking the heck with this, if she's not wearing her ring, then ditto, and why not start dating? I totally don't want to do this, but I have absolutely no leverage to make her do anything, so at some point I guess it's full blown GAL time. I know some have written that they finally said the heck with this and by the 4th date the SO was begging them to come back. I'm not there yet, but if something doesn't happen soon...

I signed up for the KLA 2006, so maybe doing some full body DB will break this loose. If not, then I'll have to go to plan 'B'.


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