Quote: I think THEY think there is nothing wrong with continuing to talk to them. They don't get that in our minds, no matter what level the relationship is on NOW, it is still down and dirty to us, including all the naughty things that were going on at it's peak.
Absolutely, this is precisely what is going on. Funny, I just had a phone convo with W this afternoon which started out fairly well, but went down hill (grrr, because I don't like being talked down to), but in essence, she said "I am trying to work on us, but when you pressure me, it just pushes me away". Okay, recognize that I really don't believe I was "pressuring" her....although maybe I wasn't being Mr. Submissive either, but what irks me (and this was unspoken to her) is that, again, I know for a fact, not just conjecture, that she is still talking to OM. She just doesn't seem to think that the two things are mutually exclusive.
Oh well, I really have to calm it down before I go home. I need to recognize that I must put up with any level of b.s. if there is any chance of getting through this.
my goal: A successful DB weekend. Positive thoughts no matter what the cost!
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
