I really have to get to work, but Chromosphere's thread on self-esteem in the SSM forum might be helpful.
Try these on for size:
I am learning to pursue information only if I believe it is useful to me.
I am a strong loving partner as demonstrated by my committment to continue improving my DB skills.
I am a strong person emotionally, I have the strength it takes to bear the risks that an R worth having takes.
I am honest with myself and willing to work to improve my weaknesses.
I am in touch with my feelings and can admit my pain.
I am open to learning from the experience of others while recognizing that their experience can only inform my own growth, not replace the process.
I look forward to continuing to grow and see those ahead of me as lights to guide my way, and those behind me, including my past self, as reminders of how far I have come and as ways to keep my compassion and develop my understanding of others in a different place from me. THIS INCLUDES compassion and understanding for myself.
My path, though different from others, is one on which I continue to go forward while respecting what I have learned.
I am strong enough and confident enough to admit my mistakes.
I have integrity.
I honor my commitments.
I can extend compassion to others even when their actions hurt me.
Anyway, that's what I think you should be saying to yourself. Much better, and TRUER from what I've seen than the humble poor me line. You are all those things I've said, I've seen it in your posts. Face it. You are a great guy showing admirable strength, courage, and compassion in the hardest of times. Give yourself your due and embrace your positive self, which includes, by the way, also being an imperfect human ;-)
