Quote: You will NOT likely find that email/letter/im where your WAS and OP talk about how much things suck and they want to end their affair. Please Rob, DO this.
This is my most important goal right now. It truly is. I don't know what I'm looking for, but what the hell, when I do find it, what good do I do? Here's the cycle, I find it, I confront her with it, she acknowledges it in the face of facts (or lies through it), I react...she gets mad, I retreat, she draws further into her shell. Hello, WTF is wrong with me? I NEED to let that all go!
Quote: 3. I will make every effort today to remind myself that I cannot control anything that W does.
True. Hard to fully realize but very true. You CAN affect what she does, but mainly that is done through her reacting to what YOU do, and with what consistency you do it. Focus on that.
This has been such good practical advice that I've been able to implement in theory (aka, in my head), but have not been putting into practice.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
