Good. Another person that did this and found out the hard way that it DOES NOT HELP! You will NOT likely find that email/letter/im where your WAS and OP talk about how much things suck and they want to end their affair. Please Rob, DO this.
2. When I have the urge to find out anything, I will refer to goal no. 1.
Ok, but what do you really want to know? Just when it will be over, right? Or maybe that they just had passionate $ex so you can get all emoted up and finally dump her? I know those are my two big ones and neither are likely to either be found out by me, or really change MY actions. Snooping is the ultimate form of attachment. If you give in to this urge, you cannot be close to detachment at all. Let it be a guide for you.
3. I will make every effort today to remind myself that I cannot control anything that W does.
True. Hard to fully realize but very true. You CAN affect what she does, but mainly that is done through her reacting to what YOU do, and with what consistency you do it. Focus on that.
4. I will focus on putting myself in a good mood for my own sake and for the sake of others.
Please. Do this. See goals 1-3.
5. I will not let my emotional state mirror hers.
Good. If you can do #4, then this one is really important. You need not be cold to her, just don't be drawn in.
Good luck on all this. Please report later tonight. We will grade you...lol.
