Unique situation....things r changin? Part 5

[PArob]

Okay, here's my thoughst and I expect a total smackdown if I'm wrong here *looks nervously around for OT*

I suppose I could just go back to what I said (and really what I think you said) that either shut up about it (maybe the best option) or be direct but DO NOT beat around the bush, insinuate, prod, snoop, etc.

This is what I think was being said. If you have something to say, then say it directly and honestly....don't insinuate, don't browbeat. However, if you can't do that, or rather not for whatever reasons, then shut up and eat it.

Take for example your sitch GH....you know the whole bear things is teeing you off. Now, could say to your W, "Hon, I understandt that you feel a closeness to that bear and that it is comforting to you. To be honest though, I feel that the bear is a symbol of your relationship with OM and by holding onto it, I feel betrayed and hurt." Or something along those lines (you can see I don't script very well). Now, after saying these things, if she has no will to carry forward the conversation, then so be it. You've made your point directly, now move on. If she should desire to continue on with the convo, then it would be appropriate to tell her why/how it makes you feel. On the other hand, you can harbor resentment for the bear and give you kids the glue and scissors

I think to a large extent, my problem is that I like to talk on and on and will kill conversations. When I am direct, I get my point across and then move on with the day. Maybe I just need to learn when to end the conversation gracefully.