I had a C session last night and it was rather uneventful. It was good, but I have not seen her in 2 weeks so most of the session was spent playing catch up, mostly me talking.
One thing that struck me, and I still don't really know why, is after going over Valentines day and some of the warming up that my W has been doing lately, the C asked me "So, is she seeing the OM less?"
It took me by surprise because most people would ask if she stopped seeing the OM. For some reason, it was a tremendous comfort to me that she asked the question that way, as if that was the appropriate step, not necessarily that she quit him altogether.
The other highlights were that she told me to go into the Ireland trip with no expectations BUT that I should BE romantic if the feeling hit me and see where it leads. She considers the trip a huge plus and an opportunity for me to show my W that I can let go and just have a good time with her, something I have really had a tough time doing in the past.
She also tried to get me to understand that where my W is right now is probably really confusing and hard. Also that the signs of him around the house like the music, teddy bear and t-shirts are possible signs that she's missing him and still clinging to him but not still with him. She told me to try to pay no attention to those things and keep working on myself.

-an aside- That little bear may be the death of me. She had it in bed last night and S5 was sick so she got up to get some medicine. I picked the bear up and smelled it. It has a definite smell of perfume or cologne. I asked her what it smelled like and she just said she doesn't know, whatever it smelled like when she got it from the storage box it was in. Just one more thing that COULD be true, but I seriously doubt. Even though I was *this* close to confronting her about the bear, music and shirts, I listened to you all and my C speaking in my head and just let it drop. I played it out in my head and realized that NOTHING good could come of me asking about those things. She would either lie or tell me things I would not want to hear (or tell the truth and I would not know the difference).

So, the C session ended on a positive. We talked about my W's change in night clothes (which is back to the usual PJ bottoms ) and how positive she thought that was. We also talked about my need to learn how to transition this friendship we are building into something with romance and sexuality. More reading...
All in all, a good day. No news from the home front. W and both kids are sick so not much going on.
Today is my W's DUI court date. She doesn't have to go but she's stressed about what will happen. Will update that later.

GH

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