Back when Dave and I met and talked about things. I went over everything with my DB Coach. What he heard through our talk was that Dave was looking for me to end the A for him. He couldn't face being the bad guy...so it would be easier for him to put me in the sitch. The DB Coach saw it as perhaps an easy way to get him back home however, if things did not work out, Dave could always go back to ow and say well I tried it, didn't work out...told you it wouldn't. The coach said it was very important that the WAS come back of their own free will. Not because of an ultimatum, promises, etc. It does make sense. Of course, I followed the DB coach and when Dave and I last spoke, his words to me "You ruined everything that night." which we took to mean that I didn't follow through with his plan, once again...leaving him to be stuck where he is because he can't find any strength to get hiimself out of it. Not my job. He has to learn how to stand on his own two feet and make his own decisions. Additionally, and more importantly in our sitch, there would have been no changes coming from Dave. So it would have been a complete return to the same ole same ole, which is not acceptable to me.
