Quote: That's the nature of addiction, though. The drunk knows that his drinking is ruining his life, but he can't stop because of the power of the drug. It's the same for your W (and mine).
Ok, so using the drunk analogy, then isn't an intervention a possibility at some point? Isn't there ever a time when we see this lingering, our W's give us many signs that they WANT to come back, that we need to jump in and pull them out?
Many different "experts" suggest that forcing the A to end it paramount to surviving it. Of course, we here in DB land reject that with good reason I think but here we are weeks, months, years, living with something that maybe could have ended long ago should we have stood up to it and demanded that it end.
This would be, in fact, the major conflict I face within my head and heart all the time. IS DB the right thing to do, or would the gamble of forcing the issue pay off in my W leaving the OM?
Well, right now I am DBing my arse off and it seems to be working. I think in the end, we hope for a stronger union then would be possible if we forced them back into an unhappy R with us, unchanged and still looking outward for happiness. Sound about right?
