So as usual, Monday was my W's night to go out. She swore she was going to a movie alone, and it could be true. Here is my question for some of you who may be reconciling, or maybe just want to chime in; if my W's actions seem to somewhat support the idea that she is beginning to come back, but she seems to have NO interest in verbally assuring me that she is, how do I give her the trust she seems to ask for? To be specific, the said she was going to the movies "alone" and got a little miffed when I seemed to not believe her. She said I was "acting" like I always do when she goes out. Funny, this time, I really believe I was not. Usually, and you all know this, I am honest here about that. I was ok at the time she said that. So we are at a point where my W seems to be asking me to believe her when she says certain things, and her actions most of the time back up what she says. Do I just believe her? Do I just write it off and try to not even consider the situation, just DBing my way through it? I truly don't know what to think about my W right now. She seems to be doing everything short of actually saying she's ready to work on us. I think I am at a crossroads where my actions/words may play a part in where we go from here. Trust too soon and get burned, trust not at all and maybe still get burned. Where do I go from here? I am going to continue to DB. I am going to continue to read and grow as a person. I never want to go back to being the man who participated in the downfall of this marriage. It's time to see if there is something new to build here. Don't get me wrong. The OM is still around, this I know, but he may be on the way out. Let's hope...
