I don't think so. I really think I got my need to ask her to talk out last night. She made it clear that she doesn't want to right now so I am good for awhile. Sure, I feel like it would be GREAT if she just declared her undying love for me and said how totally wrong all this was. Yea, just like I hope for world peace and all that... No, I am ok. I will not push. I will observe and see what happens. On that note, I guess it's a common thing for my W to be saying, like she did on V-day, things like "if you only knew" when I get in a huff about the OM. She seems to be suggesting that if I knew what's going on I would not be concerned. I don't know if I remembered this in my V-day update, but that's actually how the talk we had started. She said "if you only knew" when I was acting miffed about her going out. I immediately said, well, then tell me so I do know if it would make me feel better. Again, not great DB, but it worked to get her to open up a bit.
It was never OK to cheat. And your old M is already closed. Now you have to work on rebuilding. Kinda like after a hurricane--something terrible that came along and left you devastated but did not destroy your spirit or your ability to rebuild.
Oh sure, go with the hurricane ref for the florida boy! Seriously, that is a good way to think about it, and really how I have thought about it for most of the time. This is a new thing we are going into and it is thinking it's the same ole marriage that will contribute to our downfall. Thanks.
