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I used to think it was just a set of tools designed to get us TO this point of our W's thinking about us again, but now I see that we need to continue to practice DB to maintain through this transition. I think we are in a perilous place right now and reacting from impatience or emotion will get us in trouble.




Absolutely....patience is clearly in order here. I agree with you 100%, my W will likely find it hard to break things off with him...he's a "sweet and caring guy" (yeah, never mind the fact that he is so sweet and caring that he doesn't value our family enough to back away...but I digress).

I trust that there will come a time when it will be clear to us that we can talk about these things. Again, I don't think it will be clear from their words, but from their actions. Once we see those changes, I think over time we will recognize when it is a good time to bring the subject up.

I have to tell you that from my own experience, I don't remember having any conversation after the EA where my W and I set the record straight. That maybe was a mistake on my part, but just know, it won't come automatically.

Keeping the faith.....

"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu