I should have been specific and asked if I should go to a basketball game, the single most contentions activity in our R? I posted awhile back that she used to almost beg me not to go and stay with her for years and finally just stopped. I think that's when things started to change in her. I have cut back (even before this thing) because I recognized that it was damaging our marriage. I am just wondering if it will bring back the feelings in her that I am not going to be around much. That is my main concern. For her part, she has asked in the past few weeks why I have not gone much. I reminded her that I told her I was cutting back and she just said "oh. ok." I guess I should go but I am just so gunshy right now about making a mistake. Go ahead, slap away....
