Thanks SS. No, no jumping any weapons of any sort, gun or otherwise. Who knows what she's up to.
Anyway, thanks for the support. I did the best I could, and no, it was not that emotional at all. That's what I feel good about. It was a bit sarcastic at times, but overall, it was just two people expressing their feelings without getting angry or defensive. Pretty good.
Super friggin' fantastic my man. Very positive on all angles. You did a great job with the convo and it really sounds like she opened up to you. I congratulate you and am so very happy for you this evening. You are on the right track here, keep up the good work!
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
You know, it sounds like she is caught up in a pretty classic scenario....she has started this other thing and then her H became this great guy and now she sees her mistake but doesn't know how to break it off with the other guy. I honestly think in the near future you can expect to hear that tonite was about her attempting to break it off. It is one night. It is a very important night, but would you give up tonite if you knew it meant you'd have her every V-Day from now on?
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Welcome, and you make a great point, one that I realized early on and has kept me going strong, albeit cautiously tonight. Only time will tell. Thank you for your encouragement. I will let you know how, or if it goes...
Right on man, you have at least the right attitude and indeed, if it means giving this one V-day up to have the rest of them all to you, then its a small sacrifice indeed. Thanks Becca, that also help me put some things into perspective as well.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
Guys (and girls) I won't lie. I am not going to DO anything about it, but I am getting worried. Really, I am just worried about my W. If she is just "out" then fine, but if she went with the intention of breaking things off with this guy, I am worried about his reaction. If he is "in love' who knows how he will react. Funny, normally I would be stressing because she is not home when she said she would be. Now I am hoping that's all it is this time...BIG knot in my stomach. Wish I could just feel like it's not my place to worry. I know she's a big girl (actually, a tiny girl) and is making her own decisions but I can't help this feeling. I guess I will just have to let it play out. I just hope she's ok.
your reaction is absolutely normal GH, its okay to worry but keep things in perspective. Is she normally this late? Remember, if she IS trying to break things off, it could take some time. Keep us updated!
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
You know parts 1 & 2 of my V-day saga. The last part (when the W returned from seeing the OM) started at around 11:00pm and ended at about 11:06pm. She came home and said she was tired. She looked really drained. I asked her if everything was ok and she said "Yea but I don't want to talk about it tonight. Tomorrow." I said ok and that was about it. Gave her a hug, said happy V-day, thank you for the card, candle and candy. I went upstairs to bed and that was that. I am going to need some help for you all if she has indeed tried to, or actually broke things off with OM. I am confused, but you all warned me. She acted much colder towards me last night than in the past several days. I have read that I could take that as a positive. I remember someone posting that if you don't see signs of emotional turmoil. depression, or some kind of trauma, then likely they have not ended things with OM. Well, my W shows those signs. I am trying not to read into things because it's equally possible that she didn't break things off at all and is feeling really guilty about being out on V-day. Or, none of the above.
One thing seems known. She is starting to express remorse and her "ILY" in the V-day card was the first one in a LONG time. You all say to hold the course and that it will still be bumpy, even IF she's done the deed. I will try. It is just confusing that she wouldn't reach out to me if she is looking at me as her "husband" again. I suppose she still may be evaluating my progress and if she has done anything about "him" it may be only because she knew that was bad, not necessarily that WE are totally good. I am going to DB my arse off, and make sure I detach from whatever mood she finds herself in. I have been warned. I heed that warning. Chime in if you will.
I think the most important thing for you is to not read into anything yet. It is likely that if she did break things off with OM, then she will be experieincing a period of remorse. It is obviously critical that you be there for her in a supportive manner to help pick up the pieces. Do not personalize her emotions and do not react to them.
GH, I am really so happy for you at this point, it seems as though at the very least there has been some progress in your R, it may not be a total reconciliatioin yet, but I see so much positive right now. Stay the course and keep us updated!
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
