You know parts 1 & 2 of my V-day saga. The last part (when the W returned from seeing the OM) started at around 11:00pm and ended at about 11:06pm. She came home and said she was tired. She looked really drained. I asked her if everything was ok and she said "Yea but I don't want to talk about it tonight. Tomorrow." I said ok and that was about it. Gave her a hug, said happy V-day, thank you for the card, candle and candy. I went upstairs to bed and that was that. I am going to need some help for you all if she has indeed tried to, or actually broke things off with OM. I am confused, but you all warned me. She acted much colder towards me last night than in the past several days. I have read that I could take that as a positive. I remember someone posting that if you don't see signs of emotional turmoil. depression, or some kind of trauma, then likely they have not ended things with OM. Well, my W shows those signs. I am trying not to read into things because it's equally possible that she didn't break things off at all and is feeling really guilty about being out on V-day. Or, none of the above.
One thing seems known. She is starting to express remorse and her "ILY" in the V-day card was the first one in a LONG time. You all say to hold the course and that it will still be bumpy, even IF she's done the deed. I will try. It is just confusing that she wouldn't reach out to me if she is looking at me as her "husband" again. I suppose she still may be evaluating my progress and if she has done anything about "him" it may be only because she knew that was bad, not necessarily that WE are totally good. I am going to DB my arse off, and make sure I detach from whatever mood she finds herself in. I have been warned. I heed that warning. Chime in if you will.
