Quote: How is it that these people (WAS) seem to think everything is about them, EVEN things WE do. I ask because whenever I tell her I am going out, or doing something, she assumes it is a reaction to something she did or said. I mean I can't go to the bathroom without her thinking it's revenge for her affair.
IMHO, I imagine it has to do with guilt and keepipng us within their comfort zone. I got a lot of that from my W a couple of weekends ago. She was in a sour mood and when I attempted to create some space (she sat in the kitchen and did Word Finds and I went into the Living Room to watch TV) I was accused of being the one that didn't want to hang out with her.
I dunno, I see my reaction to that sort of behavior as kinda crucial at this point. At one point, I wanted to make sure I wasn't doing anything to p*ss her off....unfortunately, that puts the emphasis on her feelings and completely invalidates mine.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
