Really sorry to hear about your kitty. I know how hard it is. We had to give ours up when we moved into an apartment between our old house and this one. It really hurt. (((hugs)))).
Thank goodness I am not you, because I would have told W that she was not welcome to the dinner with you and the boys, that she had changed and interrupted too many plans to fit into her own schedule. I would have taken back the gift to VS and not gotten her anything.
Oh, trust me, the thought crossed my mind, and actually still is. As for taking her gift back, I sorta did. I took 1/2 of it back. lol. It was too much under the circumstances and I think besides the "other" reason I had for taking it back, it would have sent the wrong message. I am not trying to send any message at all. I am just trying to return the favor of my...er...(can I call her my wife NYS?) female roomate...lol.
