the psychobabble is useful, it gives us terms to talk about things we haven't learned how to talk about. Just check your spin and make it positive
And hey, you're making me laugh, which is making me smile after I finish laughing, if you know what I mean. That is, I'm happy for you.
Also, I'm glad you think I'm softer. It is hard for me to be soft when I hurt, and I was hurting for you (in a good way, not in an enmeshed yucky way). But, when I get like that, my defensiveness/anger/passion/whatever it is about the hurt makes it hard for me to do anything other than just be very direct and let go in sometimes a bit of a tough way. But, it is either that or be silent, and it got to the point that I couldn't bear the silence. (I know, I'm a weirdo, lol.)
Anyway, keep those bright eyes and secure self on for the rest of the day, they suit you well. I've got to get back to work and step away from the board, lol.
