I have to agree with NY. Screw your friends. If they are truly your friends they will be there for you down the road. I have to good friends who told me the same thing as you. I was hurt and I stopped talking to them for awhile. You know what happened? After awhile they realized our friendship was stronger than their personal opinions and just listened to me. This helped me realize what I needed to do with my W. See if Our M is able to survive! Today is a special day for you because of your proposal. It always will. It will also be a special day for your W for the rest of her life. Realize she is going through an emmotional turmoil also. It is hard but she needs to deal with it on her own.
Oh yah! Stop giving yourself ultimatiums! I have given myself and my W several of these and you know that, but look at what I am still doing......doing my best to keep our M alive! Your feelings will change day to day on whether you can continue or not. You have to decide for yourself when that day will come. You are putting undo pressure on yourself by giving yourself ulitimatums! I think you have an excellent plan for today! Execute it and be strong! You are doing awesome and tomorrow will be new day!
Tim
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