P.S. This probation trick was suggested to me by a friend when I was right on the verge of ending things because of by own UNuseful dealbreaker mentality. She did not want to see me treated badly, but she also knew enough DBing that she understood it was important for me to remain open to an R that meant so much to me rather than letting pride, pain, and despair get in the way.
Lol, the dealbreaker mentality reminds me of kids and teenagers who would NEVER do such-and-such, then lo and behold, they do such-and-such. I had a neice, for instance, who would NEVER like alternative rock. Yeah, right. Or new parents who would NEVER do such-and-such. But, they can't really know until they get there.
This has been very helpful for me actually. I have a problem with stubbornness in fights and I think it may have to do with this dealbreaker mentality on some level.
