I am the LDS....however, I think that there are NDS..that might be a better term. AND>>...LDS to me means a Lower Drive than your spouse. In some relationships that LDS may actually be a HDS!! Are you now thoroughly confused?
Your wife has some real issues! Intimacy issues? Sexually molested? Have you had an affair? Relationship issues? Does she need to lose weight..feel bad about her physical appearance?
Taking that much time and effort is very romantic. For some LDS, at least for me, that would turn me on. Unless there are a lot of unresolved issues between you in your relationship....if a woman has any sex drive at all...the amount of love shown to her....would make her passionate to be pursured to that degree. Most women, maybe not HDS...I don't know, respond to romance, affection, phone calls, candles lit!!!...a puzzle giving 100 ways of why you love her! Most women would be happy to hear 5 reasons of why they were loved...that were heartfelt!
Maybe you are trying too hard! You are falling all over her, and not just sexually, and she is taking you for granted. I'm not suggesting playing a game...
Endeavoring not to put pressure on her sexually and at the same time wanting to do something fun and nice for her....well, if somone has any sex drive at all..it would turn them on!
Come on baby let's f*(&&^! That is a turnoff to LDS. Doesn't sound like you did that.
How wonderful (or maybe not so wonderful) that you are still attracted to her physically when she turns you down for sex.
Your MC is right. YOu may have to come to grips with no sex. That's why I say...she is not a LDS...she is a NDS...and that isn't normal...not in a loving relationship.
Good for you for not being bitter with her. It won't lead you into anything productive.
She says the problems are within her. Does she or do you know what they are? Have you or could you suggest she go to a MC on her own to deal with the problems within her. The fact she admits she has problems is 50% of the battle!!!!
Don't give up. It sounds like you two have things to work with. If she is willing to deal with her problems....I don't think you could do anything outwardly to change it.
She has to know and be willing to change. From what it sounds like your beliefs are...the scripture that you quoted...I think that within both of you is the seed to get it right. IF BOTH of you will.
