I'm with you...."I" would love all that stuff, but agree...it's over the top.
Giant, here's a question for you to think about. If your W has a history of not responding to gestures such as what you have planned. Are you doing those things for her....or for you? I agree with Karen that you might want to think about scaling this way back....take a much simpler approach this year....her response might be surprise you.
I just feel that you risk overwhelming her and some people don't respond well in those circumstances.
