Friday was my H's office holiday party and it's safe to say it was a disaster. My H didn't really want me to go and several of his coworkers blatantly ignored me. (Shameful jerks who encouraged his A.) Initially my H said he only wanted to stay for an hour. As it turns out he was happy to stay for hours and get really drunk. He just said he only wanted to stay a short time to discourage me from coming.
Then he decided to go outside and smoke which has been an issue between us. People he went out to smoke with came back inside and after 20 minutes he was still outside so I decided to leave.
I ended up crying myself to sleep that night as I was so upset and wasn't sure whether to bother with my M. I'm so tired of being treated like crap around my H's friends and family. I've been to my H's boss's house and she didn't even say hello to me at the party or even acknowledge my presence. The fact that she was very drunk frankly is not an excuse in my book.
Almost a half hour after I left my H called to see where I was. I told him I was angry at him for abandoning me and said it was crap that people who knew me didn't even say hello. He said he was mad at me and said that was why he doesn't want to take me anywhere--because I'm difficult and unfriendly. Frankly I'm tired of hearing that excuse. Both my H and I are on the shy side until we get to know someone. I would never just leave him at a party like he did to me.
The next day I was still pretty upset and my H sent me a text saying we should talk. I decided that it would be better to just to move ahead and not discuss it. Maybe at some point in the future we will revisit the issues but I'm too hurt right now to talk to him without getting angry and emotional.
I think part of the problem is we're rapidly approaching the end of the year, which will be mean we've been living apart for a year. In Virginia that means we can file a no-fault D without the permission of the other.
