Happiness is a Choice

[cat03]

as gh would say, it is a journey, not a destination, so dont' beat yourself about your venting, it is a hard recovery road.

I so was like that too, the punishing part, I'd do the silent treatment too. But it is nice to find out that when we hold our tongues/punishments our Hs come through for us. My H is doing so many nice things for me that before he woudlnt' have or would've whined, he helps me w/the kids and chores happily. Our attitudes help so much! Before, if I wanted him to vacuum I'd say "I've been cleanign the whole house and you are at the computer, why dont you at least vacuum, this place is a mess, etc etc" he'd groan and complain and I'd argue back..nice. Yesterday I asked him "would you be a dear and vacuum the basement?" He said OK and did it, without any grief, he even does things for me without asking

Hang in there, it will get better each time.