Cat,

Yes, I will admit to having several bad days lately. Part of the problem is that when my H is away on business my mind starts to wander. He's been on three week-long business trips in the past month and a half.

Anyway, thinks are going OK, but I guess that's just not good enough for me. I kinda feel like he expects changes in me (and rightly so) but deep down he still feels as if he is the wronged spouse and that he doesn't need to change.

When he gets back from his business trip I'm going to have to sit him down and explain that I am feeling like a WAW. Three years ago, before his As, I almost walked away and seriously thought about having an A. I didn't then, and I'm not going to now. But, he's going to have to take my feelings seriously.

What I really want is for him to pay attention to me, to make me important and to start living our life together. Part of that also means starting a family. Most people on these boards already have kids. My H and I do not. I'm 33 now and as I want more than one kid, we need to get cracking. A large part of our M problems stem from the death of my H's dad. The last thing I want is for us to be old parents and for my future daughter- and son-in-laws to have to go through the same thing I did when my H's dad died.

On a positive note, after dragging his feet, my H did go with me to see my family on Thanksgiving. My whole family hadn't been together in over a year and we won't all be together for Christmas so it was important to me that my H come. Initially he didn't want to go because he only had a couple days of rest between business trips. He also didn't want to say, but he was scared to see my family even though only my two sisters know about his As. In the end we had a good time and my family was happy to see him.


SuperStressed