no, u aren't shallow. I also relish in the fact that (all modesty aside) I'm much prettier (and slimmer) that exOP, she has such a forgetable face that I can't even remember her face even though I saw so many picts of her last week! I couldnt' believe that my H fell for someone somewhat chubby, he is always into being healthy and obsesed that I loose the baby weight I couldn't totally shed. I'll quote Holly here "OWs aren't picked for their quality, but for their availability and their ability to whore themselves to a married man" (I love to recall this phrase)
I say this with love, hun, don't push, you can't get in his head, let's say you push hard enough and he comes back before he is ready, he needs to make the desicion to come back fully believing it's what he wants to do. When my H was away I wanted him back badly, but only if he really decided from his heart that that's what he wanted, I never convinced him, just left the door open and was a listening ear to him.
I dont' want to tell you what to do, but think very well how you approach him SS))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
