It's funny, I'm pissed as he!! that the ow went to the wedding with him, but kinda glad I got to confront her. At least now she can't pretend being with my H doesn't involve hurting other people.
That said, I'm not really all that upset. I honestly don't know what my H sees in her. And, I know it's a bit shallow, but I was very happy to see that I am definitely better looking than the ow. As my H and I were walking to our car at the airport I yelled at him: "How could you, she's not even cute."
I guess right now I am completely focused on getting my H to move back in. He tried to tell me that I need to stop pushing, but I think actually I need to push harder. I mean, when we got married it was because I said, "you have these dates to choose from, pick one." I think sometimes we all need an ultimatum to finally make a decision. Mind you, if I had given him an ultimatum months ago it would not have worked.
I know he wants to come home, he's just scared that it could fail. I told him I was scared too, but sometimes things are just worth the risk.
My H has told me that he has been wanting to break things off with the ow for a while now and that he only took her to the wedding because he is "weak" in his words. He feels like he owes her something. As far as I'm concerned, she's a grown woman who knew what she was getting herself into when she started an A with my H. My H said she's pushing him to get a D. Apparently their A has been on the decline for a while and she was hoping going to the wedding with my H would be a chance to patch things up. Fat chance of that considering my H has never been faithful to her.
The thing is, I am very nearly at a point where I would be OK if my H and I parted ways--not happy but I think I could handle it--just now I don't want the ow to win.
