My H and I had a wonderful time together at the beach even though it rained and we didn't even get to so much as put our toes in the water.

His friend's wedding came up and he mentioned that he had charged a flight to our credit card. I got a little upset over the fact that he doesn't want me to go but I guess it makes sense as the cost of the ticket was about $900 and we don't exactly have tons of money to be throwing around. I told him the reason I wanted to go is because it was an important event in his life and I feel like we've missed a lot of them in the past two years. He said it is more important we take care of us.

I asked what he had told people about us and he said with the exception of the close friend whose wedding my H is in, he has told no one.

There is a part of me that is upset that my H has been so open about both ow with his family and friends but not so with me. When we first got together he was quiet about us too. I've decided it is because our R is more important and he wants to protect it from scrutiny.

But, even though I'm very disappointed to not go to the wedding, my H has finally acknowledged we are on a path toward reconciliation. After we got back from the beach he ended up staying Saturday night at our place. We were discussing the fact that our computer is getting old and that it would be nice if I could get a laptop.

H: I'm going to try to give you more money this month.
M: Well, there is one way we could have a lot more money.
H: I thought after your lease runs out you could find a place for both of us.
M: I don't want another lease. If you moved back in in September we could save money and pay off our bills and then buy a place together.

In the end we agreed that it is something to discuss more later and neither of us pushed. But, frankly, I'm just really happy to hear he plans for us to be living together in the near future. The lease on our place is up at the end of October.


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