Happiness is a Choice

[RBinBR]

SS, sorry to hear that you're filing. I came to the brink of filing a couple of weeks ago, before deciding that I owed it to D to try and DB some more.

All I can say is that I don't think you should file for D unless that's what you really want. If you really want a M with your H, then I would suggest simply getting a legal separation and completely cutting off all contact with your H -- going beyond dark to "pitch black."

That way, you won't know what your H is doing with OW or where he is taking her. You won't feel hurt and you won't have anything more to resent, and you can keep the reconciliation option open for later. You'll have split all the property, and getting a D will then be very easy later (if, for example, you find a guy you'd like to start spending some time with).

Just a thought ... I wish you the best.