I am glad you are finally getting to the point where you feel you will be ok either way. I am not there yet but I can see it on the horizon. I really believe that you are right (or I was right, lol) when you say it's when you finally get there, that they really start to understand their potential loss and begin to return. To add to that, it seems like (and I get this partially from what OT has been telling me) it is imperative that we at least get CLOSE to that place so that when the M is being re-formed, we are conscious of what we truly want and do not fall into the trap of being so overwhelmed and happy at the prospect of their return that we subjugate our needs/feelings. I think you are in a good place right now, no matter how you FEEL about it. You are in a position to ensure your happiness no matter the outcome, but you are NOT so far gone as to totally reject the idea of reconciliation. I am glad for you and hope things work out. I really hope he shows for the weekend and that it pays off for you.
GH
P.S. I want to apply something you said to my own sitch so I will copy/paste into my thread. Dunno if it will have relevance to you or not so...
