SS- I don't know if i have any good suggestions on how to make the most of your brief interactions with your H. I would definitely say that being happy and upbeat will probably help, as well as not discussing the R and fighting about whatever. Let him contact you...don't call him. Its hard, trust me. But, you can do it and it helps. Don't think i am crazy, but for the past several months, i keep a log of the contact that i have with my H. So, every day, i write down if we spoke and who contacted who. I reviewed it last night and realized that my H is the one who does the majority (like 99%) of the initiating. And, its nice. Deciding not to call him helped me to gain some control over the situation.
I am sure your H is angry that you moved back home, "forcing" him to move out. My H did the same thing...it won't last. I think it might be an ego/pride thing.
RE: your SIL issue...i don't know what to do...thats a tough one b/c i get along with my SIL...well, one of them anyway. Now that i think about it, i didn't contact the SIL i don't get along with for her birthday this past year. The year before i did, b/c my H and I weren't separated yet. So, thats a tough call. What is your reason for doing it, if you did it? Is it genuine? Or are you doing it for your H? I don't mean to sound harsh, but if you are only doing it to show your H that you do care about them, then i wouldn't do it, especially if you are not sure of her actual birth date. Nevertheless, its a tough call.
I hope that you have a good weekend. Doing anything fun? Remember to take care of yourself...do something you normally wouldn't do. Enjoy yourself!
