So I finally locked out a thread. I've decided that from here on out I'm going to make a priority to try to be positive about things. I can choose to miserable or I can choose to be happy.
Not much new to report. I'm keeping busy with a bunch of projects this week, getting organized and doing a bit of Feng Shui cures to remove negative energy.
I sent an e-mail to my H and my MIL with a link to a mention of a political economics book my H helped write. I know this may be seen as pursuit but I know he'd appreciate knowing the book is being discussed and I wanted my MIL to have it too. As much as I hate her I want her to be proud of her son.
Just wanted to know I'm keeping up with your thread. Thanks for providing your digits- I plan to call in the next day or two and see if we can't set something up.
Hope all is well. Talk soon-
PetiteFlower
Quote: Follow Your Bliss
~Joseph Campbell
So my H called this morning and it turns out he was actually able to stop his direct deposit into our joint account immediately. I must say that I'm amazed by just how low he has stooped. He said he will give me the check to put in our account but WTF? I should be fuming but really it makes me think of how pathetic he's become.
He's asked me to let him know right away when his new checks and bank card for his new account arrive in the mail. I'm still debating about how fast to contact him when they arrive. Let's see if I have this right. I call him he never returns my calls. He calls me and expects an immediate answer/response. I don't think so.
I'm kinda glad that V-day is Tuesday because that's the day I do a newsletter so I'm just too busy to think about him. And, then when I get done with the newsletter I like to give myself a pat on the back for finally taking charge of a solo project. In the past I always relied on someone else to double check my work.
Nothing else new to report here. I have a feeling it's going to be a very dark couple weeks. But I'm actually happy about that. I'm trying to focus on the positive and I don't need him bringing my mood down.
Hey SS- It seems like this is the time for our WAH's to be making more and more decisions towards ending things. I will say that you seem to be centered emotionally today...thats good. You're not reacting to him. I am sometimes amazed at how insensitive my H can be about certain things.
And yes, there is such a double standard. If i call my H, it will take him a while to return my call. But, if i don't call him back within the hour, its like a capital offense. I don't get it. I guess thats why i stopped calling him.
V-day has never had any significance for me. I've always hated it, particularly when I was single. So when I got married I vowed not to be a hypocrite and celebrate the day, besides everything's so overpriced today. My H and I might have exchanged a card and gone out to dinner, flowers in the beginning but that's really it. I can't even remember what we did last year or if we even exchanged cards. Actually one of my favorite V-day gifts I ever got was from my dad. One year he sent me a heart-shaped pizza to work.
I've also made a conscious decision to drop the rope with my H. In my mind it's a little like those trust exercises they make you do in gym class. You fall backward and someone else catches you. So I'm going to trust that the end result will be positive and I'm diving head first into the unknown knowing that I will be kept safe.
I told a friend of mine that I've decided to "drop the rope" with my H and she asked if that meant I was ending the tug-of-war. I haven't heard it described that way but it made me think that if it was a tug-of-war and I dropped the rope he would land on his butt.
Anyway, H called this am to say that I could come to his office and pick up his paycheck tomorrow. I don't think he gets that fact that even if I do deposit it immediately some of our bills are going to be late because I was anticipating direct deposit not waiting for a check to clear. He just has no clue how things work.
Then when I asked what he did with all of our screwdrivers he got a little pissy. I wanted them to fix a few things and found they were all missing. He is not handy at all and I do any home-related repairs so it was boggling my mind to wonder what happened to them. Turns out he lent them to a coworker.
This whole interaction with my H has left me irritated. And now I'm going to have to drive into his office tomorrow if I want to have any money. This dropping the rope and remaining positive is going to be hard work. But, I'm going to end on a high note here. Though our conversation could have gone better he was the one who called me.
