Hi lmdi I empathize with your feelings so much. I too feel like I am not sure what to believe and what not to believe about my H and who I thought he was anymore. I was wondering what you meant when you referred to your parents saying things your H has said that are inconsistant with who you always believed him to be... Were the things they referred to said AFTER your H started to change (2+ years ago right?) or were they even before that? Just trying to clarify whether what they told you made you believe more that he is giong thru something or question more who he was from the start. It is so difficult to know what to believe, and - I am sure you will understand this - it feels like my trust is just broken. So sad to feel that way. I know this might be of little real solace, but your H has no idea how lucky he is to have someone love him the way that you do, despite all he puts you through. You always consider his feelings, even when he is not considering yours at all. You will be ok in the end, because you did the right thing - you had faith in the man you loved and you fought for your marriage. So it will ultimately be him who loses out, not you, if he doesn't come to his senses in time. Hang in there, you've come a long way, and I know I have said this before - but it may be time for you to try the last resort technique. c1t's suggestion about agreeing with him could well work, check that book out. Oh and could you pass the title of it my way??? Thanks. Take care.
