Ok. He filed. But you are going to be OK. Do you hear me? You are going to be OK!!! You and I have been in limbo for too long. You, especially. We cannot keep doing this, Imdi. I am scared. I know you are too. But we have rights, we will be protected (you'll see when you get your lawyer), and we have to go on as though our H's are not going to get their act together.
I was driving back home today and do you know what I thought about? My H. has absolutely NO CLASS whatsoever. The things he has done are enough to stop me right in my tracks. Mind you, he did at one time exibit a lot of class. But he has NONE right now. And it struck me that I can do better than that. My point is that so can you. We both love our H's very much and you know what? That isn't going to change. That is one thing they cannot take away from us. But we do both deserve better than this. It won't be easy. I am not going to pretend that things are not going to get harder first. They are. But we are doing this together and we will make it.
Please try to enjoy your visit with your mom. I don't know what your relationship with her is like, but lean on her if you can.
When you are by yourself, have a good, long cry and let it all out. Then post again if you need to. We are here for you, ok? You are not going through this alone, I promise.
Think like a butterfly, Imdi. Rebirth. Change. Beauty. We're getting there.
Love, Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
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