Hey lmdi I identify with alot of what you are saying because it seems like you know exactly what you have to do but cannot seem to bring yourself to do it, and that is exactly what I am experiencing right now. I am finding it a bit easier lately b/c lately he doesn't really bother much with me (since my genius idea to tell him I liked another guy at one point!!), and when that is the case I am fine doing the NC thing. The hard part is when they seem flirty or friendly or even come out and say / do things that make us think they might be snapping out of the fog they are in!! I still get way too emotional, and say / do things w/o thinking them through, so I guess that means detachment has not yet happened. Just not sure how to get it to happen though! I know you have been seperated for over a year now, and that in recent months at least, you guys have been ML and chatting and whatnot - were there any periods of less contact, and if so how did you deal with them as compared to the other times, when your H was more responsive? I am right next to Jersey City - can you give me an idea of where would be best for you to hang out? I prefer nights as then I don't really miss any QT eith my daughter, or Sunday afternoons my H has her, but whatever works for you. Just let me know and we will set something up!!
