When my H and I started talking sensibly again about our R, we started talking about our feelings etc etc. He was asking me about how I felt about my BF and I was saying I didnt know what I felt and to do etc etc. Anyway he turned round and said to me
' dont ask me for advice'. I am the worlds worst person to ask for advice at the moment. I dont even know whats going on in my own head at the moment, and every day I feel different and think I want something, then next day I want something else'.......
This is from a guy who is going through to same stuff as your H....
And its true....
They dont know what they want at the moment, they are confused / mixed up and feel differently every day... MLC in men!! I have learnt to not take to heart anything they say at the moment...