Thanks GH- I did think about the lawyer's role in the whole thing...that he/she is trying to build a case in my H's favor. It seems like, when someone files for D based on extreme cruelty, there are numerous sub-categories (i.e. financial, personal hygiene, demeanor, affection, etc.) in which to include instances of extreme cruelty. So, if the attorney went through these categories with my H and asked him specific questions like "did your W ever do this" and my H said "yes" then it would be included. The thing is, it didn't have to be this way. We already have a Separation Agreement, dividing all of our assets and belongings, so it's not like the things in the D papers will matter in terms of a financial settlement. He could have waited a few more months (like 2 1/2) and filed for no-fault. I don't even know if my H saw the papers before they were filed...i guess he must have. It seems as if he saw an attorney towards the end of January. The other thing that bothers me is that he never told me that he did so. I had asked him months ago to let me know when he saw an attorney and filed so that i would be prepared, and that i didn't want to get an email from him or just get the papers. He said he would never do that. Umm, apparently he would. He can't actually think that i will agree to what he put - besides the things being hurtful, there are things that are just not true.
