Thanks GH...i keep waiting for the pain to subside, but it just doesn't. After 15 months (more actually), i am just so tired of being miserable. One day, i hope to start enjoying my life again. Right now, that doesn't seem possible. But, i have to believe that i deserve to be happy.
I did some research on divorce in nj. One website said that i should have received a letter from my H's attorney, stating that they had been retained - i didn't get any such letter. Another site, which had a lot of great information, states that once the plantiff files the complaint with the court, the court will mark it as "filed" and send it back to the plantiff's attorney. At that time, I will be served. There are different ways to be served, but it seems like it might be through the sheriff's office - i am hoping that this can be avoided...that is really the last thing that i want. I was concerned about contesting, but it seems as if i will have an opportunity to admit or deny the claims that he is making, and file a counterclaim. I will definitely deny many of the things, but i don't know if i will file a counterclaim. I think it would have been a lot easier if he had just waited and filed in May for "no-fault." Actually, he could have filed sooner, if we fudged the dates of when we originally separated. I would have preferred to do that, then read all the horrible things he said about me. Anyway, i am wondering, after his attorney receives the document that the complaint was filed, if they will notify him, and if he can hold off on notifying me. I have to read the information i got more closely to see if there is a timeline for when i must be served. I keep hoping that maybe there will be time for him to reconsider. Or maybe i am just in denial...i don't know. I do know that i am in pain.
