Thanks Flutter- Actually, I didn't get the papers, but i know they were filed and what they say. I thought that maybe, he saw the lawyer and got the process started, but now is having second thoughts. But, i don't want to live in denial anymore. I am not sure when to expect to receive my copy of the papers. This just doesn't seem real. Driving to work this morning, trying not to get into an accident as tears were streaming down my face, i couldn't help but wonder what the hell has been going on for the past few weeks. I mean, 2 1/2 weeks ago, he's telling me how much he misses me. And just last week, he felt that i was dismissing him about something and was hurt and he said to me "let's try to be nice to each other." Sure, not a problem for me. But, he says this, all the while knowing that this was coming. I am not sure what to do. I am not signing the papers the way they are currently written. So, i guess that means that i have to contest it, which i really didn't want to do. I mean, 2 weeks ago, we have a conversation about selling the house, and he tells me "i didn't want you to be blindsided" - what the hell does he think this is? Part of me wonders if he filed on these grounds thinking i would contest it, and then he could tell ow that i am refusing to give him a D. But, i can't speculate...not helpful.
I am just amazed. All i have been hearing for weeks is how much he cares about me and what a sweet person i am (he even said it yesterday). How is that possible when he said such terrible things about me? And i don't understand why he just didn't wait another 3 months and file for a "no-fault" divorce. I am so confused. I don't know what to think or believe anymore.
I am in terrible pain this morning...this doesn't seem real. I know that it is not unexpected, but he could have been more upfront about it. I need to find out what happens next...now that he has filed a complaint with the courts, how soon before i am served? And, am i served by the courts or his lawyer? And does he have a say in when i am served? Anybody have any ideas?
I can't believe this is my life. How can he tell me how he wished he had never wasted one minute with me, all the while knowing he said all of these things? I'll never understand it.
