Thanks so much GH... I will have to read that interchange you had with NYS. But, i am glad that i am not the only one having trouble with the detaching. I guess it is a delicate balance...to continue to love and care for my H, but not react emotionally to him. Gee, its harder than i thought. Its hard to disengage from him, remove the emotionality of our interactions. It is doubly hard for me, b/c i tend to shut down emotionally, so i don't want to do that. But, i have to try to stop basing my everyday existence on my H's mood. But, i think its kind of normal too. Even when things are going good in a M, i think its normal to be sensitive to what your spouse is feeling and to adjust yourself accordingly. I mean, lets say your spouse gets fired, you're not gonna be running around, jumping for joy, being all happy. No, you're gonna feel for him or her, and be sad right along with him or her.
