Thanks NYS for taking the time to respond....

Maybe DBing would seem easier if i felt stronger. I guess i just don't feel very strong.

You may not believe me, but i do try to stop my negative thoughts. And i do know that it would be easier to do if i had something to fill up my time and distract me. I have a few things in mind...taking a spanish class and a pottery class. I've always wanted to do those things and i have a lot of free time on my hands now, it seems like a good idea.

I do try to remind myself to not attach my own meanings to his actions. Sometimes, though, i just find myself having a pity party.

Thank you for the book recommendation. I will definitely go to the bookstore to check it out...not tonight of course...too much snow. But, this week.

Thank you again for your feedback...sorry that i am so negative.