Glad to know I helped someone a little today! If only I could help myself. I hope I didn't sound harsh about your D. I'm sure she DOES want him there, and it IS important, and you want HIM to WANT to be there for her (I know, and my kids are only 3 and 1). I just know sometimes, how easy it is, to slip in those little 'digs' about the kids with the most well-meaning intentions, and maybe it works, but they'll probably be angry or resentful later for our making them feel guilty (when they already feel that way). I do hope he can get over himself enough to come to the confirmation; maybe your D is strong enough to tell him she wants/needs him there!
I hope I didn't sound harsh about your D. I'm sure she DOES want him there, and it IS important, and you want HIM to WANT to be there for her (I know, and my kids are only 3 and 1). I just know sometimes, how easy it is, to slip in those little 'digs' about the kids with the most well-meaning intentions, and maybe it works, but they'll probably be angry or resentful later for our making them feel guilty (when they already feel that way). I do hope he can get over himself enough to come to the confirmation; maybe your D is strong enough to tell him she wants/needs him there! 