Ok you guys, I finally feel guilty enough to post. I HAVE been busy. Probably nothing that you would consider constructive. As I posted already, H is away for a month for work....so I have nothing new to report.
ALTHOUGH......I think it is both odd and rude that he hasn't been in contact with D15 since he left. It was 4 weeks on Sunday that he brought her home and said goodbye to both of us. I, of course, haven't heard from him....but I think it is very much bad parenting that he couldn't at least pick up the phone and call D15 and say hi. I know he is back in town in his condo.....but he is being soooo selfish now.....Of course, I will use this against him in the child support issue. He says he has D15 20 percent of the time. There is NO way he has her even 5 percent of the time.
No, I haven't completed the finanancials. This is my version of "dragging my feed" on the D. I am sure it is pissin H off....but do I care? I found out from my L that we have a court date on May 3. I need to finish my narrative and the financials so L and I can go over them prior to going to court. I really, really, wish it wouldn't have come to this...but I have NO say in the matter.
I am in a real pinch for money right now.....but I will get more as soon as we go to court. This will really piss off H. D15 wants a sweet 16 party like those she sees on MTV. I told her not to hold her breath. Her birthday is in three weeks and I just don't know what to do.
She will be confirmed into the Catholic Church 4 days after her 16th birthday and H is already making noises about NOT being able to attend either her 16th birthday or her "church thing", as he puts it.
I am 100 percent sure that is has to do with H not wanting to face my parents, my friends, etc. who will be attending D15's confirmation.
I had a big "Mom" type decision to make a few weekends ago....and really hesitated to make it without H's input.....but, I figured that H has made so many unilateral decisions without MY input these days that I was the only parent D15 had....so I went ahead and did it.
The decision was whether or not to let D15 ride alone in a car driven by a 17 yr old boy. In the past, we (h and I) have NOT let her ride in a car with a boy OR girl who has just gotten their license.
D15 asked on Friday and I said OK. It killed me because it was a Friday night, they were predicting rain....and it was St. Patrick's day (lots of drunk drivers out there).....
As it turned out, the boy that I told her she could ride with ended up coming over to our house to watch a movie and never took her out in his car.....But I was pretty pleased with myself that I had thought it through and decided that SOMEONE has to be the parent here....and I could make that decision.
Now if H had given her that same permission without consulting me, I would have been furious. But I figure, H is NO parent and cannot make rational decisions.....so it was totally up to me.
She is invited to a friend's sweet 16 party this Friday. It is at a coutry club a few towns away. (yes, I could just kill the parents who give their girls these hoity toity parties)....but she has invited this 17yr old with the car to be her date.
Party is from 6-11pm. She wants to ride with him in his car. I don't want to let her. My compromised thinking is that I will let him pick her up and take her at 6 p.m. Then, I will pick her up at 11 p.m. and boy can drive himself home. I think they are just a bit safer driving while it is light out, but NOT at 11 p.m. when people are leaving happy hours, etc.
What do you all think of this compromise?
I am also thinking of calling H and asking how his one month road trip went. But I haven't anything to ask after that. I just don't care what he is doing. I am not even sure his L has told him about our May 3 court date. I sure won't be the one to tell him. Let him go to court unprepared. Serves him right.
Well, that's about all for now. I still get up enough energy to read your threads....just not enough motivation to type my own. Thanks so much for caring about me. Honestly, it really does make me feel loved.
I am off now....to visit my vet friend whose yellow lab gave birth (over a 36 hr exhausting time frame) to 6 beautiful pups. We lost 2 due to the cord being wrapped around the neck, but the rest are about a lb. each and very robust nursers.
