I finally feel guilty enough to post. I HAVE been busy. Probably nothing that you would consider constructive. As I posted already, H is away for a month for work....so I have nothing new to report, except H is acting like a a bad father....or should I say NOT acting like any kind of father, hence the new subject title of my thread.
I think it is both odd and rude that h hasn't been in contact with D15 since he left. It was 2 weeks on Sunday that he brought her home and said goodbye to both of us. I, of course, haven't heard from him....but I think it is very much bad parenting that he couldn't at least pick up the phone and call D15 and say hi.
We have stayed busy. And it is almost a relief that he is out of town.
No, I haven't completed the finanancials. This is my version of "dragging my feed" on the D. I am sure it is pissin H off....but do I care?
I am in a real pinch for money right now.....but I will get more as soon as I file the financials. D15 wants a sweet 16 party like those she sees on MTV. I told her not to hold her breath. Her birthday is in one month and I just don't know what to do.
She will be confirmed into the Catholic Church 4 days after her 16th birthday and H is already making noises about NOT being able to attend either her 16th birthday or her "church thing", as he puts it.
I am 100 percent sure that it has to do with H not wanting to face my parents, my friends, etc. who will be attending D15's confirmation.
I had a big "Mom" type decision to make this weekend....and really hesitated to make it without H's input.....but, I figured that H has made so many unilateral decisions without MY input these days that I was the only parent D15 had....so I went ahead and did it.
The decision was whether or not to let D15 ride alone in a car driven by a 17 yr old boy. In the past, we (h and I) have NOT let her ride in a car with a boy OR girl who has just gotten their license.
D15 asked on Friday and I said OK. It killed me because it was a Friday night, they were predicting rain....and it was St. Patrick's day (lots of drunk drivers out there).....
As it turned out, the boy ended up coming over to our house to watch a movie and never took her out in his car.....But I was pretty pleased with myself that I had thought it through and decided that SOMEONE has to be the parent here....and I could make that decision.
Now if H had given her that same permission without consulting me, I would have been furious. But I figure, H is NO parent and cannot make rational decisions.....so it was totally up to me.
It actually turned into a fun evening. D and her "friend" and myself and a few of my GFs made fast work of a huge crockpot of corned beef, cabbage, potatoes, carrots.....with cheesecake for dessert. It was my first experience of D15 having a boy for dinner.....and it really wasn't as uncomfortable as I thought it would be.
The previous weekend, D15 was stage manager for her school's big musical extravaganza. She did a wonderful job and got called out on stage and presented with roses. Of course, I was in the audience, so proud.
I have 10 more days of freedom from H, since he won't return from his trip til April 1. (appropriate day for fools)!
I will get those financials done if it kills me. Everytime I think I am close to estimating my expenses, the price of gas goes up and I have to refigure. (Back and forth 5 days a week to D15's school is exactly 100 miles). I think I'll just use the $3/gal. estimate and hope it doesn't go higher than that.
Big hug to everyone who's checked up on me. I appreciate it so much. I will try to be better about updating.
