Quote: Your H may think he is very annoyed by your comments and wants something different now, but you two have spent 17 years together, so obviously he was attracted to you. If he goes for someone completely different, he might get bored, b/c she will not "respond" as quick as you...
Hoping,
Ain't it ironic? H always said he was attracted to me because I was "quick witted".....
Amazing, after 17 years how "DIM-WITTED" I am!!!!!!
I, on the other hand, found him attractive because he sort of "softened" my harshness - he was kind of laid back, whereas I was right in the middle of things. I always called him my "voice of reason" in any exasperating situation.
So you see the paradox.....In his MLC, I have HAD to become the voice of reason.....Something that is not difficult, but very foreign to me; and HE has become the knee-jerk reactionary, shoot-your-mouth-off-without-thinking guy.
Quote: I realized that when I just say "oh, unfortunately that won't work b/c ABCXYZ...", instead of "NO, remember our agreement???", even though it is true that we have an agreement and H is trying to break it, I get better results.
I will definitely use that line, as I find myself saying, "NO" alot these days. (You guys will definitely have to help me craft my reply to him when he decides to buy D15 a car)..I am afraid to even THINK of what will come out of my mouth.
Quote: Some good is coming of all this MLC though- we are growing and improving ourselves and at the least it will help us and the kids!!
Cathy,
Yes, I agree! And thanks for reminding me. But nobody says I have to LIKE this self improvement plan.
