Quote: It was engaging....it was almost, dare I say,......"FUN"?)
This is what I experienced several times before my STBX proposed that we give our M a second chance on Sunday (see my updates). I remember thinking "hey, H is actually making jokes and also laughing at my comments and seem to be relaxed and having fun". Also, before H could care less about HOW I was trying to descipline S3, but lately (the past two months or so) he said things like "if you do not want me to let S3 watch certain movies, I will not do that", "I will remove guns from the house for the safety of S3 (which I have asked so many times in the past 3 years but H never watned to give them up)".
So if you felt you had "fun" with your STBX, I am pretty sure he felt that as well. But I also think to give him the letter asking if he felt the same way might push him a bit at this point.
Dust, you crack me up!!!
Quote: I thought that was a much better response than what I would have said, even a month ago....."Yah, well you stupid piece of crap.....I never asked for this D...It you'd have been man enough to NOT run away and stay and work on your M, you wouldn't be so poor." (But I didn't).
I was laughing so hard that I was crying. This is EXACTLY how I dealt with H's stupidness in the past. I also changed my behaviors and now I try to pick more neutral responses rather than getting back at him right in his face. I am sure your husband appreciated your "soft" reply. Because he KNOWS that the reason he is "poor" is he has double expenses!
Can you file the financials and interrogatories and give them to your L, but ask him to "hold on" to them until he hears something from your H's L? Or can you actually ask your L to ask H's L to put everything on hold for now till he comes back from his business trip? That way you are not directly dealing with your H regarding the D issue.
