I won't give you an answer on this as you are the one who knows your H best. I will tell you what happened for me- My H comes often for dinner and every Sunday morning for breakfast as a family- sometimes it was great. One time we laughed and cleaned out the pantry closet together, all of the niceness was back except hugging and kissing- I was thinking he would be back tomorrow. He continued the D process even when during the few R talks we had he admitted this was a "big waste"! I did talk with him occasionally even though that isn't DBing- but I didn't want to regret not saying how I felt. Sometimes he would look at me like he loved me and actually would say I will think about that. Snodderly said to me that once they get D set in their mind they often won't stop it. This is the case for my H. The interrogatories definatly have made things more tense- check out my thread! H is mad having to do them and is stressing about the money big time! I would do the financials and interrogatories and not hand them into your L until you are sure of what you are doing. You don't want to wait until the last moment to get them done- you will not do well in a settlement if the paperwork isn't done!! I remember the feeling of just hoping he would wake up before I had to finish all this crappy paperwork- I denied that the D was happening- I still hope it won't but think it will happen now. I know it is unfair and doesn't make sense to throw away a M that could be saved with work- but my H certainly doesn't want to work on it!! MLC doesn't make sense in a rational way!!!
I'm sorry that I can't say things will be great and your M will be great again tomorrow- I wish I could. We don't know what will happen- it is frustrating. You do need to protect yourself and your D though- let the maternal instinct kick in and focus on that!! If you protect yourself and your D and he comes back he will be happy you did that for his D!!! Reading finally frees posts about sticking up for yourself and how when his wife did that he did respect her- that helped me. Myturn now is another step in the process from me- so that helps me too.
No one's sitch will be the same- do what is right for you! We are here for you whenever!
