Welcome...I am new here also...just got here from Infedility (you can see my sitch, "trying to let go")...I think that you are right on by having to start thinking about yourself and come to grips that "this" M is over...highlight the word "this"...the old R is over and you are D the old...The old M is dead...and this is what helps me let go...I have not stopped loving my W but I do understand that things can't go back and I think my W knows that, and that is why she is resisting any reconcile...but we are in this forum of D but not done because we are not ready to give up on the good Dbering that we have done to this point...so hang in there and prepare yourself legally and know that you are just starting a new roller coaster.
Would love to know any thoughts on my sitch from a W perspective if you have time.
